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Often in life there can be a tendency to want to escape our problems and we can have the belief that life will be better once we get more money, find the right relationship, have more time, or overcome this particular issue etc.
The only problem that arises with this level of thinking is that we are never really solving the core problems to progress to the next level of life. It keeps us stuck.
All people have problems. I’ll repeat that again…. ALL people have problems.
Albeit, very different problems, however no matter what stage of life and success we are at, if we are alive, then we will have problems that arise out of daily living and being human. We can waste SO much time and energy on resisting and despising the fact that we have problems.
The sooner that we can embrace our problems and utilise them, not only opportunities, but also as a platform to improve our life and evolve our soul as well as guidance that perhaps is indicating where we need to grow the most, it will free up a stack of energy to actually work on and overcome the problems instead of spinning on the spot and resisting them.
By not fully embracing our problems we can set ourselves up to fail with our own happiness, believing I’ll be happy when “my life is better”. This of course takes away our ability and power to embrace internal happiness in the moment and creates a lifelong cycle of trying to “get someplace” just to be happy.
Every single level of life that we live has different problems, we don’t get to progress to the next level until we solve and resolve that problem, not with more money or more time (just another problem that we believe to be true), but through THINKING DIFFERENTLY.
Sometimes we are so fixated with the symptom of the problem, that we don’t even see what the real problem is, for example emotional eating and putting on weight, is a SYMPTOM, not the problem.
The problem is perhaps not loving our self or perhaps feeling fearful in our relationships, or perhaps not wanting to acknowledge and articulate our true feelings, so we stuff them down with food in an attempt to FEEL better in the moment. All the while perpetuating the issue, because we believe that when “I’m thinner, lost weight” then people will like me/love me AND THEN I WILL BE HAPPY.
We get so fixated on trying to solve our own problems with a QUICK FIX or MAGIC BULLET to get out of immediate pain or discomfort, that we lose sight of the real reason that we have problems… And that is to USE OUR CREATIVITY to grow, to become more, to evolve our thinking, our life and therefore our ability to also help others.
We become internally focused on trying to feel happier in the moment to escape the so called pain and problems in our life, and will do anything to do so, including escapism, procrastinating, distraction through facebook, shopping, smoking, alcohol and emotional eating. This only perpetuates and continues the problem!
We are in a state of protection constantly trying to stay comfortable and out of pain or discomfort. The surface symptoms arise as the deeper issue is not even considered.
Asking quality questions such as,” What does it take, to grow my life to the next level?” will certainly help us embrace a different level of thinking and problem solving.
When we immerse ourselves with others who are a step ahead of us, we then know where we need to stretch to, with our thinking and then our actions in order to gain more wealth, health, better relationships and overcome the current problems etc.
Remembering that this new level will ALSO come with a new set of problems to deal with!
The sooner we can embrace our problems, knowing that they WILL arise, because it IS part of the HUMAN EXPERIENCE.
To make massive progress in our lives, we need to understand what our core problem is at the current level we are at.
What are we not seeing?
What needs to change or be understood to take us to the next level?
What is the new thinking that will assist us to outgrow and overcome that problem and take us to the next level?
This in essence is ascension. Ascending beyond the current problem and living life at a new level. Life and evolution call this from us in every moment. If we are not growing and evolving, we are dying… Maybe not physically, but certainly spiritually. We settle for a life of mediocrity, losing passion, zest and excitement for life. We only have to look to nature to see what happens if we are not growing, adapting and evolving.
When we spend so much wasted energy in avoiding the problem, distracting ourself from the problem, whinging about the problem, resisting the problem, we don’t get to solve the problem to evolve to the next level. We create so many NEW PROBLEMS from not dealing with the initial problem that we are suddenly faced with so much overwhelm that we then distract and avoid even more! As you can see it creates an avalanche of issues!
Check out Tony's video below, Life happens for us, not to us......
Know that every area of life has levels and every level has a price to pay, in a problem that needs to be out grown and overcome to progress to the next level. It is true in health, in love, in business, in energy, in money, in relationships and all other areas. Success leaves clues and there are always rules of the game to be followed.
Figure out what the rules are for you, listen to your inner guidance and whisperings of your soul. Adhere to them and keep progressing. Focus on what is most important, DECIDE to face your fears and obstacles head on. Create time to think and ask yourself meaningful questions.
If this were no longer an issue, how would you be living life?
What would somebody who has already overcome this be doing?
What would their habits be?
Your answers will always be found in the next step, or the next level, above where you are currently are at. When you have clarity on what that next step or level is for you, then you will know the next step for you to take now.
FOCUS on what you want to CREATE and be and do and HAVE.
It is POSSIBLE.
Dare to DREAM.
Make the little MOMENTS COUNT the MOST!
EMBRACE your PROBLEMS, they are your greatest GIFTS to GROW and take you BEYOND where you ever thought was possible!
If you are 100% ready, committed and willing to take your LIFE to the NEXT LEVEL in 2017, I can’t wait to share my Create a life you Love course with you! – Coming soon!
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"Happiness comes from a grateful heart." The first time I heard this statement I could definitely see how this was true, however I did not even begin to think of the deep impact that this statement would have in my life until much later on.
A friend and I were discussing the other day, how much that little saying can really affect your life. When you get it and really get it at a super deep level and start practising it in every area of your life, blessings and miracles literally appear everywhere yin your life. It is so essential to your happiness, wellbeing and for reducing your stress levels. I cannot imagine what my life would be like if I had not learnt this one simple little tip.
The importance that this statement has played in the amount of happiness I have in my life is profound. When you begin to start practising gratitude by seeing the things, in life you feel happy about. It is a wonderful thing, however I have found that with continual practise of this that I am able to now also be grateful for even the biggest challenges in my life, even for relationships that have not been the way I wanted them too, and also for all the little inconveniences or even rather big, so called catastrophes.
Everything has shown me a better path, a newer way and I have grown so much from every experience as a result. Some very powerful questions that you may be able to ask yourself, is “Where is the good in this?” Or “What can I learn from this?”, or “How can I choose to grow and become more as a result of this experience?” Life is so valuable and it is continually showing you the way, through how you are feeling. If you are not feeling very happy then you know that there are some things that you are thinking about which are impacting on that. It’s important to gain clarity around this as sometimes you may tend to blame the situation or circumstances to be the thing that is impacting on your happiness, however it really comes back to how you might be perceiving or thinking about your circumstances that creates the unhappy feeling…. There is always a choice.